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My nephew who is 12 wants my green beret. I cant have kids, and I plan on him gettin it. He wants it now! I dont need it anymore (been out for awhile). You guys think hes ready? I was thinkin high school grad maybe (my dad said college). I want him to have it but dont know if he is mature enough to respect it. I have my Pap Paws flag (WW2) from his coffin, and Mam Maw gave it to me. My dad (Vietnam) said I should give it to him for college grad (better I think). His lil sis who has my middle name (her 1st name) that came from my great uncle(1st name) I have a flag from his coffin (WW2) that I have I plan to give her too.
 
 
So should he get it now or later?
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If it were me, I would probably make him wait for the Beret. You could give him another type of cover for now,but explain the Beret is special.
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+1 to Billyburl2. If your nephew waits he will have the chance to learn some lessons about patience and reverence. The Beret is special because of the memories and trials you endured to earn earn the Beret. Instant gratification is not the way to teach this. Trust yourself. You just stated that you are unsure if he understands its meaning. To give it to him, and see him disrespect the history behind the beret could cause ever lasting damage to your relationship. Trust yourself, there will be the time to present the Beret and you will know when that time comes.
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I agree, I think he'll appreciate it and respect the real significance behind it, once he's a little older.
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For sure wait. Your time spent with him is more valuable right now. At the moment it is more of something really cool. When he is in his mid 20's it will be a valuable witness to a Uncle he very much respects and appreciates. When I was 12 my Dad gave me special garment from his early days and I truley did appreciate it. Being a pack rat anyway it stayed in my closet for yrs. When I moved to my own place I was cleaning out my closet and found the bag hanger it was in. Excited to see it again I opened the bag to admire it again only to find other clothes in it. Upset, I trashed the closet lookin for it. After I had searched the fouth time I asked my Mom if she remembered it. She said "Oh I thru that old thing out yrs ago". After catching my breath and picking my heart up off the floor I asked "why". She said at one point when I had out grown everything so she took most of the stuff out to make room for the new stuff. It took me months to get over that and is probably the only time I've ever been mad at Mom. I guess my point is things like your Beret can inspire and motivate him at the right time in his life. And even if at sometime in his life it were lost knowing that you chose him to have it is more valuable than the article its self.

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I would wait for a while, it took me a long time to really appriciate stuff like that, at age 12 i didnt care about "sentimental value" i would wait until at least ago 18 maybe even 21.
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In my personal experience that kind of thing should not be passed on until:
 
1. They have established their own home and you recognize stability
2. Something arbitrary where you can likely figure they have grown up, like age 24... although some people never mature, ever.  So there is that.
 
The wisdom simply cannot be there at this time.  You are better off to give him something like an old knife and see how he treats it.
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Originally posted by Sgt. D Sgt. D wrote:

For sure wait. Your time spent with him is more valuable right now. At the moment it is more of something really cool. When he is in his mid 20's it will be a valuable witness to a Uncle he very much respects and appreciates. When I was 12 my Dad gave me special garment from his early days and I truley did appreciate it. Being a pack rat anyway it stayed in my closet for yrs. When I moved to my own place I was cleaning out my closet and found the bag hanger it was in. Excited to see it again I opened the bag to admire it again only to find other clothes in it. Upset, I trashed the closet lookin for it. After I had searched the fouth time I asked my Mom if she remembered it. She said "Oh I thru that old thing out yrs ago". After catching my breath and picking my heart up off the floor I asked "why". She said at one point when I had out grown everything so she took most of the stuff out to make room for the new stuff. It took me months to get over that and is probably the only time I've ever been mad at Mom. I guess my point is things like your Beret can inspire and motivate him at the right time in his life. And even if at sometime in his life it were lost knowing that you chose him to have it is more valuable than the article its self.






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At 12 years old, he may not fully understand and respect the honorable gift you want to present to him; it could end up getting lost or damaged as well while he's growing up. Like most who've posted already, I'd let him wait as well, maybe at least until he graduates from high school or some other special time in his (and your) life.

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